There is no guaranteed way to know if a person truly loves you, but there are a few signs to read in order to figure out what is on the mind of your loved one. If you would like to know if the person you love truly loves you back, then you have to pay attention on how the person acts, what they say, and what they do when you are together. Though love may mean something different to every person, there are many ways to tell if a person truly loves you, just has a crush on you or just being momentarily infatuated with you.
Notice How the Person Acts
1. See if the person can act naturally around you.
Part of being in love means being completely open to the other person. If you find yourself seeing a whole different side that the person doesn't show the public, then that may be love. For instance, if your partner is pretty serious or polite in public, but shows a more goofy and silly side when you're alone, then s/he is really opening up to you and loves you. If the person shares his or her deepest emotions with you and is comfortable with it, then that is love. If the person is comfortable not looking perfect, tripping, or having food stuck in his or her teeth around you, that means s/he is okay if you see every side of him or her.
2. Gauge if the person is happy to be around you.
This should be true even during a bad day. If your loved one has had a very bad day but lights up when s/he sees you, then that’s a sign of love. If s/he is in love with you, then the sight of you or the sound of your voice is guaranteed to make him or her feel better — if only a little bit.The next time s/he is grumpy or has a bad day, see how s/he reacts in your presence.
2. Notice What The Person Says .
1. Notice if the person talks positively about your future together.
If the person really loves you, then the idea of you being in his or her future is an absolute given, not something that he or she would ever have anxiety or uncertainty about. If the person routinely talks about what you’re going to do in the future, about what your lives will look like one, two, or even ten years in the future together, then s/he is probably in love with you.
True commitment means seeing a forever with another person. If the person talks about the future and always includes you in it, then there is a good chance s/he truly loves you.
If the person talks about what your kids will look like, where you will retire together, or where you will go for your honeymoon, then s/he may really love you.
2. See if the person gives you meaningful compliments.
There’s a difference between saying, “I like your new haircut” and “You have the ability to make me feel better no matter what.” If the person gives you compliments that show that s/he really appreciates the important aspects of your character and personality, then there’s a good chance s/he really loves you.
Your loved one doesn’t have to shower you with compliments all the time — it’s the quality, not the quantity, that makes a difference.
3. Determine if the person means every “I love you.”
Remember that there is a big difference between “Love ya!” and “I love you.” If your special someone really loves you and tells you this much while looking into your eyes, sounding earnest, and not wanting anything from you, then it’s likely that s/he really means it.
If the person undeniably loves you, then s/he will say it for no reason at all, not just because s/he needs a favor or because it feels like the right thing to say.
3. Notice What the Person Does.
1.Hope to be listened to.
If the person really loves you, then s/he’ll not only open up to you, but s/he’ll also listen to anything you have to say — even if s/he’s heard it all before. Though s/he won’t be your lapdog, s/he will be around to hear your thoughts. S/he will nod and respond thoughtfully and not interrupt instead of switching the subject to something s/he wants to talk about.Part of being in love is just being able to listen. It’s not all about being able to talk.
2. See if the person is always there for you.
This includes those times when it’s inconvenient. Sure, if you want to grab a drink or a tasty meal, the person is always around, but what about when you need a ride from the airport or you need someone to walk your dog while you’re sick? If the person truly loves you, then s/he’ll be there for you during the fun times as well as the not-so-fun times.If the person is only around when you’re happy, lighthearted, or in a good mood, but flees the scene as soon as you are sad or cranky, then that is not love.Love is about being there for a person, no matter what. Truly loving a person means accepting all the positive and negative qualities of that person, and being around during the good times and the bad.
3. Consider the nice things done for you.
If the person truly loves you, then s/he’ll do thoughtful things like put gas in your car when you’re busy, do your food shopping for you, or bring you chicken soup when you’re home sick. These favors don’t have to be constant or over-the-top, but if the person truly loves you, then s/he’ll want to do things to make you smile and to make your life easier.True love isn’t just about what you can take from the person, but what you can give as well.If the person really loves you, then s/he will do nice things for you without you having to ask. It should be implied that you need a favor or help sometimes. If you have to ask for something nice every time, then that may not be true love.
4. See if the person always wants to be around you.
Part of being in love is always wanting to be around the person you love, even if it’s impractical. If the person truly loves you, then he or she will want to be around you — a lot. This doesn’t mean the person will want to be attached at the hip, but it does mean that the person will try to take as many opportunities as possible to see you.