Conflict Resolution Training

Training Module On Conflict Management

Definition Of Conflict Management

Differences are inevitable in a local group having members with different experiences, attitudes and expectations. However, some conflicts can support organizational goals. Indeed, too little conflict may lead to apathy, lack of creativity, indecision and missed-out deadlines. Clashes of ideas about tasks also help in choosing better tasks and projects. These are ‘functional conflicts’.

Functional conflicts can emerge from leaving a selected incidence of conflict to persist, which can be overcome by ‘programming’ a conflict in the process decision-making by the group by assigning someone the role of a critic. This also helps to avoid ‘group thinking’ where group members publicly agree with a course of action, while privately having serious reservations about it.

The most difficult conflicts are those arising out of value differences. The most important thing is to understand the real cause of the differences. Yet every resolution of a conflict can also feed a new conflict in a group. It is, therefore, useful to see conflicts as a series of expressions of existing differences within a group, having some links to each other. How effectively a group deals with conflict management largely affects the efficiency level of its functioning.

Common ways of dealing with conflicts within a group

  1. Avoiding – withdraw from the conflict situation, leaving it to chance.
  2. Harmonizing – generally cover up the differences and claim that things are fine.
  3. Bargaining – negotiate to arrive at a compromise, bargaining for gains by both parties
  4. Forcing – push a party to accept the decision made by a leader or majority.
  5. Problem solving – confront differences and resolve them on a collaborative basis.

Conflict-management styles

Collaborating – Conflicting parties jointly identify the problem, weigh and choose a solution.

Accommodating – Playing down differences while emphasizing commonalties.

Competing – Shows high concern for self-interest and less concern for the other’s interest. Encourages ‘I win, you lose’ tactics.

Avoiding – Either passive withdrawal from the problem or active suppression of the issue.

Compromising – A give-and-take approach involving moderate concern for both self and others. Each party has to give up something of value. It may include external or third party intervention.

Managing conflict

  • Allow time for cooling down.
  • Analyse the situation.
  • State the problem to the other person.
  • Leave the person for some time.
  • Use a win-win approach.

Factors affecting conflict

  • Personality traits affect how people handle conflict.
  • Threats from one party in a disagreement tend to produce more threats from the other.
  • Conflict decreases as goal difficulty decreases and goal clarity increases.
  • Men and women tend to handle conflict similarly. There is no ‘gender effect’.

Table 9.1 Matching conflict-management approaches with group level conditions

Situation Conflict-management approach
Considerations Forcing Accommodating Compromising Collaborating Avoiding
Issue importance High Low Medium High Low
Relationship importance Low High Medium High Low
Relative power High Low Equal-High Low-High Equal-High
Time constraints Med-High Med-High Low Low Med-High

Table 9.2 Matching conflict management with process of goals-setting by the group

Conflict-handling style Appropriate situations
Collaborating · When both sets of concerns are too important to be compromised
· When objective is to learn
· To merge insights from people with different perspectives
· To gain commitment by incorporating concerns into a consensus
· To work through feelings that have interfered with a relationship
Accommodating · To allow a better position to be heard and to show reasonableness
· When issues are more important to others than yourself
· To build social credit for later issues
· To minimize loss when you are outmatched and losing
· When harmony and stability are especially important
· To allow subordinates to develop by learning from mistakes
Competing · When quick, decisive action is vital
· On important issues where unpopular actions need implementing
· On issues vital to organization and when you know you are right
· Against people who take advantage of non-competitive behaviour
Avoiding · When an issue is trivial, or more important issues are pressing
· When you see no chance of satisfying your concerns
· To let people ‘cool down’ and regain perspective
· Gathering information supersedes the immediate decision
· When others can resolve the conflict more effectively
Compromising · When goals are important, but not worth potential disruption of more assertive modes
· When equal power opponents are committed to mutually exclusive goals
· To find temporary settlements of complex issues
· To arrive at expedient solutions under time pressure
· As a backup when collaboration or competition is unsuccessful

What to do when you are:

The lead person to present and clarify the background of the conflict

Problem identification

  1. i) Clearly explain your problem in terms of behaviour, consequences, and feelings.
  • Maintain personal ownership of the problem.
  • Use a specific incident to illustrate the expectations or standards violated.
  • Stick to the facts, avoid drawing evaluative conclusions and attributing motives to the respondent.
  1. ii) Persist until understood and encourage two-way discussion.
  • Restate your concerns or give additional examples.
  • Avoid introducing additional issues or letting your frustration and emotions grow.
  • Invite the respondent to ask questions and express another perspective.

iii) Manage the agenda carefully.

  • Approach multiple problems, proceeding from simple to complex, easy to difficult, concrete to abstract.
  • Conversely, don’t become fixed up on one issue. If you reach an impasse, expand the discussion to increase the likelihood of an integrative outcome.


Make a request. Focus on things you share in common (principles, goals and constraints) as the basis for recommending preferred alternatives.

A chairperson in the group conflict management

Problem identification

  1. i) Establish a climate for joint problem solving
  • Show genuine concern and interest. Respond empathetically, even if you disagree with the complaint
  • Respond appropriately to the lead person’s emotions.
  1. ii) Seek additional information about the problem
  • Ask questions that channel the lead person’s statement from general to specific and from evaluative to descriptive.

iii) Agree with some aspects of the complaint(s)

  • Signal your willingness to consider making changes by agreeing with facts, perceptions, feelings or principles.


Ask for recommendations – to avoid debating the merits of a single suggestion, brainstorm and seek multiple alternatives.

A mediator for managing conflict

Problem identification

  1. i) Acknowledge that a conflict exists
  • Select the most appropriate setting (one-on-one conference vs. group meeting) for coaching and fact-finding.
  • Propose a problem-solving approach for resolving the dispute.
  1. ii) Maintain a neutral posture
  • Assume role of a facilitator and not judge. Do not belittle the problem or criticize the disputants for their inability to resolve their differences.
  • Be impartial towards the disputants and the issues (as long as policy has not been violated).
  • If correction is necessary, do it in private.

iii) Manage the discussion to ensure fairness

  • Focus discussion on the conflict’s impact on performance and the detrimental effect of a continued conflict.
  • Keep the discussion issue-oriented, not personality-oriented.
  • Do not allow one party to dominate the discussion. Ask directed questions to maintain balance.


Explore options by focusing on interests behind stated positions

  • Explore the ‘why’ behind the disputants’ arguments/claims.
  • Help disputants see what is common among their goals, values and principles.
  • Use this to generate multiple alternatives.
  • Maintain a non-judgmental manner.

Table 9.3 Comparison of conflict-handling styles

Approach Objective Your posture Supporting raionale Likely outcome
I. Collaborating Solve the problem together “This is my position, what is yours?” “I am committed to finding the best possible solution.” “What do the facts suggest?” The positions of both parties are equally important (though not necessarily equally valid). Equal emphasis should be placed on the quality, outcome and fairness of the decision-making process. The problem is most likely to be resolved. Also, both parties are committed to the solution and satisfied that they have been treated fairly.
II. Accommodating Don’t upset the other person “How can I help you feel good about this encounter?” My position isn’t so important that it is worth risking bad feelings between us.” Maintaining harmonious relationships should be our top priority. Other person is likely to take advantage.
III. Competing Get your way “I know what’s right” Don’t question my judgement or authority.” It is better to risk causing a few hard feelings than to abandon an issue you are committed to. You feel vindicated, but other party feels defeated and possibly humiliated.
IV. Avoiding Avoid having to deal with conflict “I’m neutral to this issue.” Let me think about it.” “That’s someone else’s problem.” Disagreements are inherently bad because they create tension. Interpersonal problems don’t get resolved, causing long-term frustration manifested in many ways.
V. Compromising Reach an agreement quickly “Let’s search for a solution we can both live with so we can get on our work.” Prolonged conflicts alienate people from their work and engender bitter feelings. The participants become conditioned to seek expedient rather than effective solutions.

Training module on conflict management

Table 9.4 Contents, objectives and methodology on partnership and conflict management

Partnership content Sub-content Specific objective Methodology
Role of stakeholders in poverty alleviation

Behavioural aspects of building partnership

Knowledge of basic government management functions; tendering, budgeting etc.

Organizational abilities for PRI meetings

Communication skills

Role of officials, elected representatives, NGO representatives and civil society including beneficiaries 1. Clarification of role of local development agencies like DRDA, banks, PRIs and NGOs

2 Understanding the attitudes, beliefs, motivation, awareness, socio-cultural aspects and development of partnership among all stakeholders for poverty alleviation




Self-analysis techniques

Simulation game

Story telling and problem-solving

Field visit to success and failure sites

Conflict-resolution content Sub-content Objectives Methodology
Concept and sources of conflict


Methods of conflict resolution

Institutional mechanism for conflict management among government and NGOs at panchayat level

Leadership development on problem-solving, development-oriented attitude and social communication skills

Negotiating skills

Panchayat role in summoning development officers To clarify the concept of conflict and collaboration

To identify the sources of conflict

To understand the process of effective conflict management

To plan collaboration with stakeholders

To clarify the institutional set-up and interests of stakeholders in conflict- resolution




Simulation game

Case study