Could Your Personality Derail Your Career?

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Good people can become great, but usually they don’t. Part of the problem is good people are often unaware of how close they are to becoming great. What do I mean? The termination of only a few traits/habits/preferences is often enough to move someone much closer to “greatness”. This can mean greatness overall or in terms of some specific sport or skill.
Want proof? Think about three friends or colleagues you know very well, and with each person imagine they no longer exhibited three traits that you know people around them commonly agree are their most annoying personality “thorns”. Then, imagine those three people no longer had their three “personality thorns”. How much closer would those three be to being great instead of just being good or average? I am betting a LOT closer. Sports psychologists often help athletes change only 1 or 2 thought or behavior patterns, and that brings greatness.
Chew on this: A very small percentage of a person’s psychological makeup (say, 2% of their total set of personal traits/preferences/habits) can undermine the other 98% of their makeup that is healthy and positive. A trainload of healthy habits can be derailed by a few bad habits. Think about it: How many times have you said to yourself, “I really like X except they are so…” and ended your statement by naming one trait/habit/preference only? That ONE trait was a blockade to you forming a deeper, more trusting, longer term relationships with them. That ONE trait is also likely what I call a “derailer” – a major reason they are not promoted, are not a better parents, friends, etc. etc.
Look in the mirror. Do you recognize the value of insightfully managing your thorns? If not, you are likely derailed and you do not even know it. Studies have shown that even supposedly mature organizational leaders often fail to lead because they have personality thorns that they defensively protect, leading to truly catastrophic consequences. Personality derailers are not simply annoying traits, but often kill your ability to grow, relate, or at work be promoted or lead a team.
Good news. We behavioral science experts are learning which personality thorns are particularly likely to derail someone. Advanced behavioral science assessment tools are providing 360 degree x-rays into personality and character for children, parents, athletes, and business people. The following are 10 derailers that seem to not just irritate others, but stifle the personal and professional maturity process. Whatever age or role in life you are serving, take heed:

Enviousness

You are not truly happy for others success, and you work too hard to “keep up” with others on a material level.

Defensiveness

Defensiveness toward being corrected or criticized. Generally hypersensitive people don’t mature, they just grow old.

Aloofness

If you come off as cold/distant, you will not be trusted or influential.

Volatility

Overly emotional people are attention hogs, and focus on themselves, not on the reality around them.

Eccentricity

Eccentrics are funny in the moment, but when building a team may lack the ability tone down their eccentricity to build rapport. Deeper relationships are absent.

Entitlement

You believe you deserve everything you want. A rampant epidemic attitude in our society.

Unreliable Character

You are unpredictable, and not trusted or confided in.

Eagerness to Please

You are more of a pleaser than an honest communicator. But your displeasure with things builds up and explodes at times.

Morally Scrupulous

You find fault with even small misbehavior. No one meets every one of your rules. Your best friend is yourself.

Making Destructive Comments

Needless sarcasm and cutting remarks erode any rapport you may have built up. Your relationships never “run deeper”.
This is not a complete list, and if you want to know what your derailers are, you or your child can undergo a 360 degree evaluation which comprehensively yet concisely assesses your personality.

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