It is very common in these days a lot of people in their search for happiness, search for it not within themselves but in other people and in material things. Many of them assume that things such as a good job, more money, better relationships and others will give them the happiness that they are searching for.
But, the truth is, we can only find true happiness and contentment if we look within ourselves and we learn how to be our self’s best friend.
Even if our experience of happiness sometimes appears to be coming from an outer source or event, the true happiness is coming from within us.
But why true Happiness comes from within?
First of all, we need to acknowledge that happiness is a state of mind, which can be created by positive and good emotions and most importantly can be created by us.1
In one of my previous post I have talked about that our emotions are a result of our thoughts. It all starts from our thoughts which create our emotions. Here is the post: The importance of our thoughts.
We also need to keep in our mind that we can be in charge of our thoughts even if sometimes we can find it difficult and that a Positive thinking can help to create our happiness.
Our thoughts are a consequence of our reactions to various events that can happen in our life. It’s how we react to the problems, that create our state of mind, therefore we need to have a good attitude in life, in fact, Happiness is also an attitude of mind.
We need to realize that happiness is a product of our own minds, so if we want to live a happy life, we need to work on our happiness every day.
Every day, we should take account of the things that make us happy and enjoy them.
We also need to discover the things that made us unhappy and seek to avoid those.
As I said before, Happiness is a state of one’s mind. We do not look for it. We do not even have to chase it. Happiness, in truth, lies within ourselves starting from us and ending at us.2
While many people try to look for happiness through their wealth, career, money and success, we have to understand that happiness is something that we choose for ourselves. Happiness is a choice and not a destination but a way to live our life.
It is our inner feeling that creates happiness, along with how we interpret the events of life.2
We also need to realize that Happiness coming from material things is just illusory, temporary, is not really happiness but just pleasure. If we chase happiness in material things, our pursue for happiness will never end.
We live in a society where big companies want nothing more than make us feel our happiness is dependent on what they provide.
The media bombard us daily with commercials showing people that are happy with products that they sell. Basically, they want our money and also they want to make us believe that we can pursue happiness with material things and personally there is nothing more wrong than that.
What can we do to create true Happiness?
As I have mentioned before we need to understand that we need to work on our happiness every day and create good and happy habits.
Then we need to stop believing that we need to have a reason to be happy.
The source for happiness is just lying within us. Real and genuine happiness can only be ours, whatever the circumstance we might be in right now, by looking inside us.
There are two main steps to take to create our Happiness:
1 # Empty ourselves from all negativities.
If we are truly determined to be happy, we need to free our mind and body from all negativities.
Remember, that there is nothing negative on earth, only our thinking makes things that way.
We need to get rid of fear, frustration, ego, tension, hatred, anger and stress from our system.
Be aware of our destination and imagine ourselves getting there. Relax. If things are bound to come, they will come, only if we want them to.
2 # Fill ourselves with positivity.
After we have learned how to empty ourselves from all the negativity, the next step is for us to fill ourselves with as much positive energy as we can. Fill ourselves with hope, kindness, compassion, positive feelings, gratitude, desires and love.
As we do so, we can finally tell ourselves that happiness is just within our reach.